H.I.M. — Friends, Not Dates

Sign on, pick a screenname, and drop into 7 rooms — New York City to Everywhere Else, Late Night to Sunday Reset. No swiping. No radar. No grid. Friendship first.

H.I.M. ("Hi, It's Me") is a friendship app for gay men — not a dating app, and not a hookup app.

It's built on the things that made the early internet feel like home: a screenname that's yours, an away message that says what you're up to, a buddy list of people you actually know, and chat rooms where conversations happen out loud. No swiping. No match queue. No "people nearby." No photo-first browsing. Just talking — the way friendships actually start.

WHY H.I.M. IS DIFFERENT Most apps for gay men are built to pair you off. H.I.M. is built to help you make friends. There is no swipe mechanic, no proximity radar, and no algorithm pushing you toward romance. You meet people in chat rooms, get to know them in conversation, and add them to your buddy list when there's a real connection.

CHAT ROOMS Drop into regional rooms (New York City, Los Angeles, Chicago, Atlanta, and Everywhere Else) or vibe rooms like Late Night and Sunday Reset. See who's around, jump into the conversation, and meet people who share your corner of the world or your time of day.

BUDDY LIST + AWAY MESSAGES Build a buddy list of people you've actually met in the rooms. Set an away message so your buddies know what you're up to — "grabbing coffee," "doomscrolling," "finally cleaning my apartment." It's status as self-expression, the way it used to be.

DIRECT MESSAGES Private one-to-one conversations with the buddies you choose. Send text, photos, and voice notes. Messages queue offline and send when you're back online.

BUILT FOR SAFETY AND PRIVACY

• Block and Report on every profile, every message, every room.
• A content filter screens messages for objectionable language before recipients see them.
• Notification previews default to sender-only, so a message snippet never lands on your lock screen where someone could read it over your shoulder.
• Face ID / Touch ID app lock keeps your conversations yours.
• Delete your account anytime, in two taps — your account and your content are deleted.
• Download a copy of your data anytime.

WHO IT'S FOR Gay men 18+ looking for friendship and community — new-in-town, starting over, between friend groups, or just tired of every app being about dating. If you've ever wished there were a place to just talk, this is it.

H.I.M. is made by Saman Technologies LLC.

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