Ser Girafa

Tool to resolve conflicts and improve relationships

Being a Giraffe will help you record your conflicts and achievements. Its structure is based on the principles of Non-Violent Communication by Psychologist Marshall Rosenberg.

The 4 basic components of Non-Violent Communication (NCV) involve:
1) Observation: the concrete actions that we are observing and affect our well-being;
2) Feeling: how we feel about what we are observing;
3) Need: the needs, values, desires that are generating our feelings;
4) Request: the concrete and most specific actions we ask for to enrich our lives.

CNV can help us have a lighter and more wonderful life, it supports us in the process of improving relationships and resolving conflicts. It allows us to listen to the other person without taking things personally; helps us express ourselves clearly, in order to build understanding and trust; helps us move away from common “right/wrong” thinking toward valuing the needs of all individuals, thereby building agreements and using them as a foundation for collaboration. And finally, it supports us to see conflicts as a source of learning, growth and innovation. Conversations and exchanges based on NVC awareness enrich work environments, communities, groups and our closest relationships.

And why can writing help you?
Writings based on the NVC process will help you adapt your way of thinking and you will be more prepared to practice the process in your daily life. Furthermore, as social psychologist Pennebaker found, keeping daily records about emotionally charged episodes makes people notice an excellent improvement in their physical and emotional well-being. There may even be a reduction in blood pressure and an improvement in immunity. Sometimes we feel something and we don't know how to describe or understand what is happening in ourselves, when we can face and name our emotions we can better deal with stress, anxiety, so common today, and losses. This allows new perspectives to emerge, which can transform obstacles into opportunities to connect more directly with your deepest values. Self-knowledge is the beginning of a more rewarding life!

In this version, completely free with all functions available and without advertising, you will be able to:
1) Log in using your Google account (records are personal, only you will have access);
2) Select the context based on the situation you are going to report:
a) Professional
b) Family
c) With colleagues or friends
d) Private (you with your thoughts)
3) Make an observation, describe the facts, the actions, without evaluations or judgments;
4) Choose a feeling. You will have a compilation of categories of feelings related to unmet and met needs.
5) Choose a need. You will have key needs categories and subcategories.
6) Register an order. After expressing what you observed, felt and needed, you can make a specific request.
7) You will have access to the records with all your notes with dates and times.

And finally, you must be curious to know what the relationship between CNV and the Giraffe is?
NVC is called communication that connects, compassionate, empathetic, language of the heart and language of life and the giraffe was chosen because it has some compatible characteristics:
- It has a thick tongue that can eat fruit with thorns, but nutritious, just like it we want to extract something nutritious for us from difficult situations and relationships;
- It has the biggest heart among land animals;
- She has a long neck that allows her a privileged, broad and panoramic view, just as we want to have of our conflicts and problems.

Welcome to the giraffe community!